We all possess a mental image of ourselves, and we firmly believe that our behavior and actions mirror that image. However, the reality is often more complex. Our actions might actually reflect a personality that deviates from our self-perception. For example, when you present a piece of candy to a child, you may think of yourself as a good person, but the reality is that you have acted poorly with regard to the child’s health. This complexity deepens when we consider the diverse perspectives others use to perceive our behavior and construct their own mental images of us. Your coworker, whom you find tiresome due to his predictable jokes, might be considered humorous by your manager. This same individual, in turn, might be perceived as intelligent by a third colleague simply because he has successfully gained the boss's favor. Personality development requires us to examine not only the personality we project but also how different groups interpret this reflection, potentially shaping their perceptions of us.
Here's how to see your personality reflected in others' eyes:
1. Choose the right personality test.
2. Take the questionnaire to understand your self-perception (your own mirror).
3. Sign in and invite friends to take the questionnaire for you (create reflections).
4. Wait a bit and log back in to see how your friends perceive you.